Become.

A hundred small moments, a new path, and practice.

Looking back now, none of it happened in one moment. Not the noticing, not the naming, not the choosing. It happened in a hundred small ones, so small most of them barely felt like anything at the time.

That's actually how habits work. And habits can be good or bad. For years I had been building patterns that strengthened as I repeated them; saying yes to everything, taking on another responsibility, helping out of obligation. Those are all habits too and very easy to not notice.

The good news is, bad habits can be overwritten with good ones. Every time you catch a pattern, name what's underneath it, and choose something different, you're not just making one decision. You're wearing a new path into your brain, a little deeper each time, while the old path, the one you used to run on automatic, gets a little less traveled. Neuroscience explains to us that this is due to neuroplasticity, we can rewire our brains. I can really geek out on the science of it all, ultimately it boils down to practice.

It's why none of this is a one-time fix. The clenched hands, the questions I couldn't name, the choice that changed everything, that wasn't the end of the story. It was the beginning of building new habits that I've had to keep practicing ever since.

I still notice new things. I still have moments where I have to ask what's actually going on underneath a reaction. I'm not past this work, the secret is the work is never over, I'm just more familiar with what needs noticing now than I used to be.

That familiarity is really the whole goal. Not perfection, not arriving somewhere and being done. Just enough practice that the new way starts to feel like you, a healthier, more aligned version of you.

This is the part of the work that one-on-one coaching holds space for, not a single breakthrough, but the ongoing practice of becoming, one small notice, one small name, one small choice at a time.

If you think 1:1 coaching is something you would like to explore, reach out for a clarity call.

What would it look like to be a little more familiar with the version of you that you're becoming?